A woman's sexuality is a complex interplay of physical and emotional responses that affects the way she thinks and feels about herself. A sexual problem can hurt her personal relationships and her self-esteem. Yet, many women hesitate to talk about their sexuality with their health care professionals, and many health professionals are reluctant to begin a discussion about sexuality with their patients.
Instead, women needlessly suffer in silence when their problems could be treated.
Women can experience a variety of sexual problems, such as lack of desire, difficulty becoming aroused or having an orgasm or having pain during sex. When a physical or emotional problem persists, it's time to contact a health care professional.
For the first time, there's even a drug approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration to treat low sexual desire in women. Flibanserin (brand name Addyi) was approved in 2015 for premenopausal women who do not have underlying physical or psychological causes for their disorder. Reports are encouraging on the drug's results so far.
Just as there are many types of sexual health problems, there is a range of sexual activity. Intimate activities include fondling, self-stimulation, oral sex, vaginal penetration and intercourse. Every woman differs in her sexual interest, response and expression. A woman's feelings about sexuality can change according to the circumstances and stages of her life.
Research on the sexual response in the mid-1960s by Masters and Johnson established what is known as the traditional linear sexual-response cycle: excitement/arousal, plateau, orgasm and resolution. The stages are defined as follows:
- Excitement/Arousal: The feeling that you want to have sex, followed by physical changes that occur in your body as you become sexually excited. These include moistening of the vagina; relaxation of the muscles of the vagina; and swelling of the labia (skin folds that are part of the vulva) and the clitoris (a small, sensitive organ above the vagina, where the inner labia, which surround the vagina, meet). The nipples also become erect.
- Plateau: The above changes in the genitals continue, there is an increase in blood flow to the labia, the vagina grows longer and glands in the labia produce secretions. There is an overall increase in muscle tension.
- Orgasm: Known as the peak of the sexual response, the muscles of the vagina and uterus contract leading to a strong, pleasurable feeling.
- Resolution: You return to your normal state.
More contemporary research suggests that a woman's sexual response is more complex, varied and less linear than this model suggests, particularly when the woman is involved in a long-term relationship. In 2002, Rosemary Basson, MD, a psychiatrist and expert in sexual medicine, introduced a new cycle for the female sexual response that reflects the nonlinear nature of the sexual response and in particular the concept of responsive desire.
The variability among women and the multiple factors impacting a woman's sexual function are important to understanding sexual health, as well as for accurately diagnosing and treating sexual dysfunction. The differences, in part, include recognizing that women's sexual responses are connected as much to relationship and intimacy as to physical needs, and that variability does not always equate to being "dysfunctional."
In addition, it's important to recognize the concept of responsive desire. That is, the sexual response does not always follow the order of desire then arousal. Many women may become aroused without much desire as a result of engaging in sexual stimulation. Once sexually aroused, desire is then kindled. The overlap of desire and arousal is now reflected in the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), which has combined the previously separate disorders of "hypoactive sexual desire disorder" and "female sexual arousal disorder" into "female sexual interest and arousal disorder."
Sexual dysfunctions are disturbances in one or more of the sexual response cycle's phases or pain associated with sexual activity. An estimated 43 percent of women in the United State experience a sexual problem, and 22 percent experience sexually related personal distress, according to the PRESIDE study, published in 2008 in Obstetrics and Gynecology journal. According to that study, you may be at greater risk for sexual problems if you are:
- single, divorced, widowed or separated
- not a high school graduate
- experiencing emotional or stress-related problems
- experiencing a decline in your economic position
- feeling unhappy, or physically and emotionally unsatisfied
- a victim of sexual abuse or forced sexual contact
- suffering from a thyroid condition
- dealing with urinary incontinence
There are several types of sexual dysfunctions. They can be lifelong problems that have always been present, acquired problems that develop after a period of normal sexual function or situational problems that develop only under certain circumstances or with certain partners. Causes of sexual dysfunctions can be psychological, physical or related to interpersonal relationships or sociocultural influences.
Psychological causes can include:
- stress from work or family responsibilities
- concern about sexual performance
- depression/anxiety
- unresolved sexual orientation issues
- previous traumatic sexual or physical experience
- body image and self-esteem problems
Physical causes can include:
- diabetes
- heart disease
- liver disease
- kidney disease
- pelvic surgery
- pelvic injury or trauma
- neurological disorders
- medication side effects
- hormonal changes, including those related to pregnancy and menopause
- thyroid disease
- alcohol or drug abuse
- fatigue
Interpersonal relationship causes may include:
- partner performance and technique
- lack of a partner
- relationship quality and conflict
- lack of privacy
Sociocultural influence causes may include:
- inadequate education
- conflict with religious, personal, or family values
- societal taboos
Lack of sexual desire is the most common sexual problem in women. The Association of Reproductive Health Professionals reports in the National Health and Social Life Survey that 32 percent of women lacked interest in sex for at least a few months in the previous year.
Sexual response is very individual, and different women feel different degrees of sexual response at different times in their lives. Women in their 50s have about half the testosterone they had in their 20s, causing reduced sexual response. That's not to say, however, that a woman can't have a full physical and emotional response to sex throughout her life.
Most women will have a passing sexual problem at some point in their lives, and that is normal. However, the highest prevalence of sexual problems with distress is in women aged 45 to 64.
If your relationship or sexual problem is new, try having an open, honest talk with your partner to relieve concerns and clear up disagreements or conflicts. Women who learn to tell their partners about their sexual needs and concerns have a better chance at a more satisfying sex life. If the sexual problem persists, discuss your concerns with your health care professional. Most sexual problems can be treated.
Sexual Problems
There are three major classifications of female sexual problems, as defined by the DSM-5. They are:
Female sexual interest/arousal disorder occurs when sexual fantasies or thoughts and desire for sexual activity are persistently reduced or absent and/or a woman is unable to experience adequate sexual arousal causing distress or relationship difficulties. Often, a woman's sexual desire is affected by her relationship with her sexual partner. The more a woman enjoys the relationship, the greater her desire for sex. The stresses of daily living can affect desire, however, and occasionally feeling uninterested in sex is no cause for concern. But when disinterest persists and causes problems, it is classified as a disorder.
Female orgasmic disorder refers to the persistent absence or recurrent delay in orgasm after sufficient stimulation and arousal, causing personal distress. About one in three women have problems reaching orgasm.
Never having an orgasm, or not having one in certain situations, are problems that can sometimes be resolved by learning how the female body responds, how to ensure adequate stimulation and/or how to overcome inhibitions or anxieties.
Some medications, including but not limited to those used to treat high blood pressure, depression and psychosis, can reduce your sexual desire and sexual arousal and interfere with orgasm. If you are taking such drugs and experiencing sexual side effects, talk with your health care professional about changing your dosage or prescription.
Genito-pelvic pain/penetration disorder refers to pain during or after intercourse. Also called dyspareunia, this disorder occurs in nearly two out of three women at some time during their lives, according to The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. Like other sexual disorders, it can have physical and/or emotional causes. The most common cause of pain during sex is inadequate vaginal lubrication occurring from a lack of arousal, medications or hormonal changes. Painful sex also can be a sign of illness, infection, cysts or tumors requiring medical treatment or surgery, another reason why you should discuss the problem with your health care professional.
Persistent genital arousal disorder (PGAD) refers to persistent or recurrent distressing feelings of genital arousal or being on the verge of orgasm not associated with concomitant sexual interest, thoughts or fantasies for greater than six months. This disorder is not included in the DSM-5 and can affect both men and women. It is extremely distressing and thoughts of suicide are common.
There are multiple causes of PGAD, and the syndrome is not well understood. There is typically a perception of increased genital engorgement and sensitivity, which may be from a foreign body under the clitoral prepuce, pathology in the nerve enervating the clitoris or impingement on that nerve at the level of the spine from a bulging disc or a Tarlov cyst. It is sometimes concomitant with restless leg syndrome or overactive bladder.
Treatment of PGAD is directed at reducing or eliminating the increased stimulation to the nerves, which are misinterpreted by the brain as sexual stimulation. Oral medicines, such as tramadol or varenicline, are sometimes helpful, while physical therapy or TENS units are also sometimes used. Referral to a center familiar with spinal surgical procedures is sometimes necessary when there is impingement on nerves.