Self-Care for the Soul: An Interview With Life Coach Pamela Mulhearn
I always like to talk to boomer women who are doing interesting things during their life after 50. Recently, I had a chance to chat with Pamela Mulhearn, certified professional coach and Energy Leadership Index–Master Practitioner. Pamela works with empty nesters and helps women get ready for their next chapter.
"For 11 years, I was a multi-venture entrepreneur and small-business adviser," said Pamela. "This gave me flexibility to be available for my children. The day came, as my children started leaving the nest, when I decided to sell the businesses.
"I took some time and volunteered for women's organizations, assisting women in reinventing themselves and making changes in their careers. I then decided to get certified as a life coach and have been working with women in transition ever since."
Advice From the "Queen of Reinvention"
While I'm a few years past the empty nest, my life continues to evolve. I was curious to hear what Pamela had to say about her work with post-50 women. Here are excerpts from our discussion:
What trends are you seeing in women post 50 and post empty nest?
Pamela: The biggest trend right now is women shifting toward "self-care of the soul." Women over 50 are taking stock of their lives and making the changes necessary to achieve happiness and fulfillment. There is a ripple benefit of this peace and contentment to all those around her.
(Yes, Pamela, that's me. I'm reevaluating many areas of my life and working on setting more mindful intentions around my mind, body and spirit.)
Is there a common thread?
Pamela: I generally work with women in two categories. First, women who put their careers on hold for 20-plus years to raise their families. With now-grown children, these women find themselves trying to find a new purpose. Many of these women have devoted and flexed their lives around their children's hectic schedules and are feeling lost. We work together to help them find their "ME" again.
Second, women who are trying to gain balance in their lives. One of my most popular programs is the Midlife Makeover. Together, we look at many aspects of their life, such as health, career, relationships, spirituality and fun. This helps to focus on areas that need attention.
What is the best thing to do when you are in transition?
Pamela: As a woman approaches 50, it is a time to take a pause and look at her timeline. She needs to ask the questions: Where have I been? Where am I now? And, where do I want to go next? This is such a wonderful time to change it up and make your life fantastic. It is a time to revisit dreams of the past, design new dreams and then, go out there and get started.
(I hear you, Pamela. Next week, I'm taking a big leap and starting my training to become a yoga instructor during my life after 50. The first class is Anatomy and Physiology of Yoga. Uh-oh! Oh-no! I wasn't good in biology in college. Hope I make it through the sessions. Maybe I should go play Operation again—loved that game when I was a kid!)
What should you avoid?
Pamela: Women at this time in their lives should avoid staying stuck in the same patterns.… At midlife, it is time to mix it up and do things differently. Try something new.
Are there any good questions to ask yourself to help you move ahead and stay positive?
Pamela: Here are questions I ask my clients:
- What are your dreams and goals?
- What is your new purpose?
- Where do you want to live?
- What is that deep-down yearning you have been ignoring?
- How are you going to have fun?
Hmm, hmm, I am going to ponder my answers to these questions. What about you? Leave a comment and let me know what you think.
You can find more information about Pamela Mulhearn at pamelamulhearn.com.
This post originally appeared on aboomerslifeafter50.com.