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Kristen Mucci-Mosier helps couples and individuals become more present in their bodies and relationships.
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No one ever told me the secret about what happens when you're trying to get pregnant. No one told me that all of sudden you can't think about anything else and that every person around you seems to be pregnant or carrying a newborn. It's go-go-go and then wait, and that two weeks of waiting is agonizing. Every twinge in your abdomen, you're thinking: Could that be implantation? Am I pregnant? Then comes the questions: should I be doing yoga? Should I have that glass of wine with dinner?
And then, if you're like most women, your period comes, and there's some heavy disappointment, while also trying to play it cool: "I'm not worried, it will happen when it's supposed to." And at the same time, worrying about your partner and what they're thinking.
Maybe I'm unique and you're wondering what I'm talking about, but I can't imagine that considering the chats I've read across online fertility message boards. So many things come up around getting pregnant:
If you're there, here are some things you can do to take some of the stress out of getting pregnant:
What helped me then and still helps me today with the fears that come up around pregnancy is this mantra: I'm just a witness to this process, doing my part and standing back to watch.