Sex and Your Hysterectomy: A Primer
A hysterectomy affects your sex life, along with other parts of your life, so it's important to understand all the options before having a hysterectomy.
Apr 25, 2018Your Body
Director of the Women's Midlife Services at Holland Hospital
Dr. Barb DePree, a gynecologist in practice for over 30 years, specializes in midlife women's health. She is certified through the North American Menopause Society as a provider, and was named the 2013 NAMS Certified Menopause Provider of the year. Dr. DePree currently serves as the director of the Women’s Midlife Services at Holland Hospital, Holland, Michigan. In 2018, she completed a certification in Genetic Cancer Risk Assessment.
A member of NAMS, ACOG and ISSWSH, Dr. DePree has been a presenter for the ACOG CME audio program. She has served as a key opinion leader for Shionogi, AMAG, Duchesnay, Valeant, Wyeth and Astellas leading physician education, and participating in research projects and advisory panels.
Finding that products helpful to her patients’ sexual health were not readily available, Dr. DePree founded MiddlesexMD.com that shares practice-tested, clinically sound information and products, including guidance for working with partners and caregivers. Dr. DePree publishes regularly on her own blog, providing updates on research in women’s sexual health, as well as observations and advice based on her work with women in her practice. Sharecare named her as a Top 10 Social Healthmaker for Menopause in September of 2013. In 2017, she was named among the “Top 10 Best Menopause Blogs” by Medical News Today. Dr. DePree also publishes podcast interviews on women in midlife, exploring the ways they have made the transition in their lives and careers.Full Bio
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I'm just gonna say it: The best time to get information about sex after a hysterectomy is before the hysterectomy ever happens.
When a patient come to me with sexual issues after having had a hysterectomy, and she is unclear about what kind of hysterectomy she actually received—what organs were removed or whether she had a laparoscopic or a vaginal procedure, for example—this indicates to me that she may not have sought or received the information she needed to make an informed decision.
Whether to have a hysterectomy is a loaded topic these days, so let's just dive in and get the facts out of the way, shall we?
Hysterectomy is the second most common surgical procedure performed on women, after caesarian section. Almost 12 percent of women between 40 and 44 have had one. That number rises to 30 percent by the time you're 60. About 600,000 procedures are performed every year in the U.S.—the highest rate in the world, although other developed countries also do a lot of hysterectomies.
Most hysterectomies are performed for such benign but bothersome conditions as fibroid growths, endometriosis, heavy bleeding and vaginal prolapse. Only about 10 percent are done for truly life-threatening conditions such as cancer or a uterine rupture during childbirth.
It's almost like having a hysterectomy has become a normalized part of growing older as a woman. You get your hair colored, and you have a hysterectomy. That's just how it goes.
Recently, however, women's health organizations and other health professionals—as well as women themselves—have been questioning that inevitability and pushing for less radical treatments for benign conditions. These include less invasive treatments, such as having a progestin IUD placed or endometrial ablation for heavy bleeding or uterine artery embolectomy treatments for fibroids. Still, hysterectomy remains the most common go-to for a host of "female troubles."
Like any surgical procedure, a hysterectomy involves weighing risks and benefits. These are dependent on factors such as age, childbirth history, the size and shape of the uterus, among other considerations.
For example, it might be better for a younger woman with a benign and treatable condition to first try alternatives to the permanent removal of her uterus because her reproductive organs are still fertile and hormone-producing. Even a woman in perimenopause is still producing hormones with all their good protective benefits to vaginal tissue, heart and bone.
On the other hand, a postmenopausal woman with an unpleasant uterine prolapse might be a very good candidate for hysterectomy. This patient's hormone production has virtually ended and other treatment options aren't permanent or also involve a surgical procedure.
Sometimes, however, when a woman's quality of life is so compromised, when she's in enough pain or is bleeding erratically or profusely, she may be willing to do anything to make it stop. A hysterectomy will make it stop and will often improve both sex and quality of life.
But a frank patient/doctor discussion is still critical—so she understands her options and, insofar as possible, what the outcome will be.
So, there are options for treatments of benign conditions such as fibroids or endometriosis. Hysterectomy is invasive and permanent, so it makes sense to explore other options first. But if a hysterectomy seems to be the best approach, you then need to know about the different types of hysterectomy and their outcomes.
This is important, because how quickly you recover and the effect on your sex life has everything to do with the type of surgery you have and what organs are removed.
We'll discuss this in an upcoming post.
Barb DePree, MD, has been a gynecologist for 30 years, specializing in menopause care for the past 10. Dr. DePree was named the Certified Menopause Practitioner of the Year in 2013 by the North American Menopause Society. The award particularly recognized the outreach, communication and education she does throughMiddlesexMD, a website she founded and where this blog first appeared. She also is director of the Women's Midlife Services at Holland Hospital, Holland, Michigan.