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How to Get Over Awkward Sex Moments

Sexual Dysfunction

Imagine for a moment that you're just starting to get hot and heavy in the bedroom and things are really sexy—then something embarrassing happens. It's probably not that difficult to conjure up this scenario, since most people have been there before.

But how can you get over these awkward moments without killing the mood or making yourself look ridiculous? Here are a few pointers.

Realize That It's Completely Normal

Even if you've been with the same partner for a long time, sex is still an unpredictable act. Different positions, moods, toys and locations can affect what goes on under the sheets (or wherever else you like to get it on). When you're trying new things and getting into it, there's no telling what can happen, and awkward moments are a possibility. Next time something happens that you didn't predict, just realize that plenty of other people have dealt with it.

Don't Be Afraid to Talk About It

Communication is important in any relationship, and it's especially crucial when it comes to sex. Not only should you and your partner be telling each other what turns you on, but you should talk about any issues that arise during sex, like problems climaxing. Talking it over can reassure both of you that there are no hard feelings, and it can help you figure out a solution.

Embrace the Humor of the Situation

When something embarrassing happens, you may have used the laugh-it-off approach. If you don't take yourself too seriously and acknowledge the humor of the situation, it makes everyone feel more at ease. The same is true of awkward things that occur during sex. For example, it's a fact that the friction of sex can make it easier to release gas, so farting is bound to happen at some point. It might embarrass you at first, but it is kind of funny hearing it—so why not laugh? Then just keep going like it never happened.

If You Can, Prevent It in the Future

Certain awkward moments can be prevented if you recognize them and try to solve the problem. Maybe your partner wants to try dirty talk, but you feel silly saying things in the heat of the moment. Outside of the bedroom, practice a little bit with yourself and think of things that feel natural for you to say. Or, maybe your kids walked in on the two of you getting down to business. In that case, get a lock on your door!

Seek Professional Help if Needed

If you experience a physical problem, like pain, urine leakage or inability to climax during sex, talk to your health care provider. Don't be embarrassed to bring it up. Health care providers are trained to listen, diagnose the problem and offer some treatment options.

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