Tantric Sex: Learn Something New from Something Ancient
Relax your mind. Sit with your knees bent and feet tucked under your buttocks. Squeeze your thighs and buttocks together and focus on tightening the muscles in the anal area. This area is the source of your sexual energy. It is very important to be mindful of regulating breathing in and releasing the breath while contracting muscles.
Once you are comfortable with this process, add another step: press your tongue against the back of your top teeth. Hold, release, and repeat three times.
Now try pressing your tongue to the top of your teeth while visualizing excitement in your genitals. If your muscles contracted involuntarily, you have just experienced sahaja, or "the natural state in which man and woman become focused on their inner being," according to Michaels.
If there is one overarching principle of Tantric sex, it is that you should stay in the present moment. Stop worrying about other things you need to do with your day. Release your judgments about yourself and your partner and your expectations of what sex "should" be. Surrender to the moment and enjoy sensations throughout your body. Tantra may boost and regenerate your sex drive and increase your health and happiness.
There are a number of excellent books available about Tantra, including those cited in this article. So if your curiosity is piqued, definitely explore further!
