Supporting a Friend Who Has Breast Cancer

DO acknowledge the person's fear. After all, it's real and appropriate. It's OK to say, "You must be scared." Talk about the cancer with her (if that's what she wants). If you've just read something pertaining to the subject, ask first if she'd like you to share the information with her. Follow her lead. You'll be able to tell in no time what she needs by simply listening.

DON'T drop out of sight or stay away.

DO be there—any way you can. Stay in touch, even if it's just by notes or cards. While a phone call is nice, too, if you're not sure if the person feels like talking, a note or a card is unobtrusive yet caring. Or, make a donation to a cancer research organization in honor of her. It's a touching reminder that you're thinking about her.

And finally, remember this. Everyone needs different things. Try to take your lead from them. Sometimes just being there, listening and being supportive are the greatest gifts you can offer.

If you would like more information about how to best help a person who has been diagnosed with breast cancer here are some other sources:

American Cancer Society
www.cancer.org
National Cancer Institute
www.cancer.gov

Some helpful books:
"The Etiquette of Illness" by Susan P.Halpern
"Cancer Etiquette" by Rosanne Kalick
"Help Me Live" by Lori Hope.

These, and other sources, include helpful information for caregivers, family and friends.